Tuesday, November 13, 2012

Pinching

Anyone have a solution for a pinching twin?

Every single time she passes her brother she pinches him. Every single time she's mad at me she goes and find him and pinches him.

It's getting OLD!!!

The poor guy is pathetically defenseless. He won't touch her. Used to be he pinched her. He grew out of it. Now she pinches him and he neither defends himself nor knows how to avoid her. Once this week he managed to duck out of reach. He was quite proud of himself. As funny as that sounds, it's plain sad because she is ruthless and he's defenseless.

I can't encourage him to pinch her back.... that wouldn't be right, but I hate that he can't figure out how to protect himself from her.

On a brighter note she has pulled up her britches on the violin playing. After I clued the teacher in that she was being manipulated, and talked straight with the Missy, she made a complete turn around and learned a Christmas carol in one week. I've told her she can play it for church with her sisters sometime before Christmas. She's pleased as punch. I don't quite understand. She doesn't usually care what I say about anything.

If I were being real I'd tell you how I'm struggling to like this kiddo right now, but I'm too tired to go there at the moment.


8 comments:

Mama Ds Dozen said...

LOVE the new pic at the top of the blog. Beautiful!


:) :) :)

Jenny said...

I completely understand about struggling to like one of your twins. I am with you on that many days!

Anonymous said...

Hang in there. Love and like dance around each other when we parent these ones. Imagine her life with out you...give up?? Then take heart. You are in my prayers today!

Anonymous said...

Mittens?

Anonymous said...

Why not let her get pinched back? You reap what you sow. It worked with my kids. Don't know if it would work with the Missy.

Anonymous said...

PS, pain is a strong motivator.

dannette said...

I guess I am thinking that since he used to pinch her - well paybacks are hell. Hopefully she will get through this phase quickly - if not he will probably get better reflexes! And just want to say I love your blog - parenting tough kids is not for the faint of heart!

C Dawn's bucket said...

What about having her do something to serve him every time she pinches? Whether that is doing one of his chores or doing something nice for him...something to make reparations. I don't know you know her best and maybe this would be more stress than it is worth to enforce but it just seems like when we hurt someone we usually do something to repair the relationship...I'[m wondering if the reparations might be a significant enough deterrent to stop the behavior.