Wednesday, April 24, 2013

Tulip Town













It was another trip to Children's for the post-op of Missy's bone graft surgery. We figured we'd make it count. We visited the zoo and we stayed the night at a friends and took in the tulip fields the next day.

I enjoyed a wonderful night's sleep at the friend's house. The social worker okayed for the girls to watch the babies and the mom to sleep at our house to help with the night time crying. Of course, for her they slept all night. For me last night Duckie slept not at all.

Missy is reverting to some old behaviors. It started at Children's Hospital. I guess she feels this is her territory.... she has a lot of "rights" and expects to be catered to there. I had asked her to sit down and she stared me down and said, "NO!" It went from there... It was rather shocking.  She had one of those epic rages since coming home, and this morning she has been screaming non-stop. It's painfully discouraging. You think your child has made a ton of progress and suddenly we are back at the infantile behaviors and utter insanity. There's no working with her at all.

6 comments:

Mama Ds Dozen said...

Beautiful Pics! You were over in our neck of the woods. Glad you got a day away (and a night at a friend's house). Sad that Missy isn't doing so well.

Keep up the good work.
Keep seeking His wisdom and strength.
The Lord will continue to guide and direct you.


Laurel

Julie said...

I hope I can encourage you today. I know how frustrating it is when it seems you have gone backwards, but maybe look at it from a different perspective? That used to be your normal but now it's not. That's huge progress. None of us are perfect. We all slip into old patterns of behavior once in awhile. I find myself getting impatient or lacking in grace and oh how it can spiral into prideful justification of my emotions if I don't catch it quickly!!

I have a friend that is an avid road cyclist. It is nothing for her to ride 25-50 miles in a day. She's done it for nearly 15 years. She still falls down on occasion. It's really rare but it does happen. Sometimes it is circumstances beyond her control.. punctured tire, another biker bumps her, that kind of thing. However, she told me once that the biggest frustration for her is when she has fallen due to her own lack of attention. She gets lulled into the rhythm of her legs pedaling, the road going by, etc.. and forgets to stay alert and then suddenly she crashes. How often do you see road kill beside the road? Yeah, gross thought, but cyclists have to pay attention or that dead critter can make for a very bad day for them!

I think it's the same for all of us, but especially kiddos from hard places. They are cruising along and they seem to be in a good rhythm and something unexpected in their path can send them crashing! It doesn't mean they didn't make progress in their ride or that they have to go back to the beginning and start over, but they might have to heal some bumps and scrapes in relationships and behaviors and it might take a few days for them to get back on the path, but they will do it.

Julie said...

I hope I can encourage you today. I know how frustrating it is when it seems you have gone backwards, but maybe look at it from a different perspective? That used to be your normal but now it's not. That's huge progress. None of us are perfect. We all slip into old patterns of behavior once in awhile. I find myself getting impatient or lacking in grace and oh how it can spiral into prideful justification of my emotions if I don't catch it quickly!!

I have a friend that is an avid road cyclist. It is nothing for her to ride 25-50 miles in a day. She's done it for nearly 15 years. She still falls down on occasion. It's really rare but it does happen. Sometimes it is circumstances beyond her control.. punctured tire, another biker bumps her, that kind of thing. However, she told me once that the biggest frustration for her is when she has fallen due to her own lack of attention. She gets lulled into the rhythm of her legs pedaling, the road going by, etc.. and forgets to stay alert and then suddenly she crashes. How often do you see road kill beside the road? Yeah, gross thought, but cyclists have to pay attention or that dead critter can make for a very bad day for them!

I think it's the same for all of us, but especially kiddos from hard places. They are cruising along and they seem to be in a good rhythm and something unexpected in their path can send them crashing! It doesn't mean they didn't make progress in their ride or that they have to go back to the beginning and start over, but they might have to heal some bumps and scrapes in relationships and behaviors and it might take a few days for them to get back on the path, but they will do it.

Emily said...

Ooooh, I'm jealous!!! Tulips are my absolute favorite flower. So gorgeous!!!

acceptance with joy said...

Julie, You are so right. Thanks for the reminder.

Kelly said...

Wow. Absolutely gorgeous!! I am just in awe of God's beauty that you continually capture on camera. Thank you for sharing.