Thursday, April 23, 2015

Stuck in the Pound and Stuck in Jail

I only hear from her when she WANTS something. I've been hearing a lot from the 4 kiddos' mom lately. She was calling me multiple times a day from jail. I couldn't answer every time. It costs me $5 a call. She wanted someone to post bail.... The bond was only $250, but NO one was willing to pay it because none of us believed it would be in her best interest. The charges were stolen vehicle and a burglary, etc... It's all drug driven. At the last moment she found someone to pay it. She is a great manipulator and at court she convinced someone she would do good even though her rap sheet is as long as my arm.  She promised to go to treatment, but her promises are nonsense. A few days later she called me again. Her dog had been taken to the pound and it would cost $190 to get it out and she wanted me to go get the dog and she would pay me back later....  Before the day was over she was back in jail for 3rd degree theft. I did not go get the dog and felt some guilt about it, ugh, I did not want a wire-haired terrier who might chase chickens and is 8 yrs old and has seizures. Her Ex was willing to pay the $ if I would take the dog, but Steve and I agreed we didn't want it and who knew when the gal would get out of jail to claim it again.... so I didn't. Surprisingly she got out of jail the next day (three pending charges) and called to get her dog from me, which I didn't have.  When she went to see the dog at the pound someone had already adopted it.  UGH! I feel bad. She loved that dog more than she loved her kids. She is slowly being stripped of everything of her own doing but she accepts no responsibility for any of it. It's always someone else's problem and this time it's my fault she lost the dog.  It feels yucky, but we're walking a fine line of helping and enabling and sometimes it is hard to know which is which. Here's hoping the dog is with a good family who wants it and will care for it.  I'm pretty sure her old master will be back in jail for a long time soon. One of these days her manipulations will no longer work for her.  It's a sad, sad, deal....  The thing she needs to do the most she will not do.
The view from my garden.

9 comments:

Laurel said...

Your photo (and the area you live in) is absolutely AMAZING! I've driven through the area a few times recently and thought of you each time, wondering which hill you live on.

Thandi said...

You're doing absolutely the right thing.

Emily said...

As hard as it is for her to lose the dog, she does need to be stripped of everything. Sometimes rock bottom is the best place for someone to be, and she clearly isn't there yet. So sad. Still praying.

acceptance with joy said...

After reading about James' physical response to anger, I'm thinking that maybe it's a good thing that he is not the strong one. Maybe the Lord is protecting you while he works on James' heart, before strengthening his body.

LOVE your photos. They look like paintings! What type of camera and lens do you use? Laural - NOt sure why this would not post, had to do this manually!!

acceptance with joy said...

What kind of a camera lens am I using???

I am not.

These are smart phone pictures.

It is easy to take great pics when you live where we do :-) lol.

acceptance with joy said...

Hey Laural,

It's nice to hear from you again. I had wondered what happened to you... I think a lot of us have had blogging up and downs... It gets hard to write the hard stuff for so long.

acceptance with joy said...

oh.... and I use snapseed with my smartphone to brighten up the photos.

Fostering Journey said...

I'm new to reading your blog. Are you fostering the 4 kiddos? I cannot even imagine giving bio parents my number. You are so strong!!!

acceptance with joy said...

Not fostering the kids anymore. But yes have gotten to know all the families of kids we fostered. Most have been welcome in our home. It has worked well for us.... The kiddos are with their dad now but come spend time with us every week.